I find it sickening to read post after post about Daniel Tosh, saying “comedians are SUPPOSED to make jokes about everything and make you feel uncomfortable!” “he has freedom of speech!” and not only that, but “he’s a crass and dirty comedian, why are people surprised? That girl shouldn’t have gone if she didn’t know who he was!”
I’ve even seen people commending Daniel Tosh on “trying to normalize rape” and also for “putting that fucking bitch in her place”.
1 in 4 women will be raped in their lifetime. That is a staggering statistic. When people make light of something like rape, they’re making light of a person being forced into an embarrassing and humiliating act- sometimes by people they love and trust, sometimes by complete strangers. Sometimes with violence attached to it. Sometimes with verbal abuse, name-calling, threat of their life.
But… that’s hilarious, right?
The fact that women often will be shamed and slandered and called a slut if they’re raped, or even their own parents might say “can’t you get over it?” or might not even believe them. The physical torment of having someone use your body. That’s just fucking amusing.
I’m a transgender male. I’m rather far along in my transition so far, and I read another staggering statistic about transgender people in general: 50% of them will be molested/sexually assaulted or abused. So excuse me if I’m not exactly chuckling at the fact that 1 out of 4 women will be raped, and 50% of transgender/gender-non conforming individuals will be sexually assaulted or raped as well. And it really does make me sick that people think that something as humiliating, as downright disgusting and horrible as forced sex on another person who is unwilling is funny, and should be laughed about.
Daniel Tosh did not just make a rape joke, either. He began the set-up for a rape joke, a woman “heckled” him and said rape is never funny. And his response to a ‘heckler’ is to embarrass her and demean her in a way that could put her in her place. “Wouldn’t it be funny if she was gang-raped by like, 5 guys right now?”
I don’t usually use the term “enabling rape culture” because I think it is overused and often utilized when it isn’t necessary. But it means to basically affirm that rape is no big deal, it can be funny, it is often a woman’s fault, and also involves that phrase “she was asking for it” based on their outfit, their demeanor, etc. Saying it would be funny if a woman who told him rape jokes were never funny was gang-raped by 5 men is not okay. It will never be okay. The woman felt threatened and scared and left. Again, women have a 1 out of 4 chance of getting raped in their lifetime. Do people understand that? It is not funny when a woman almost expects to have a man forcibly use her body. And if you knew you had a 1 out of 4 chance of being castrated, or being raped yourself, I don’t think someone bringing up how funny that would be really would make you laugh. It might actually scare you.