melodiesintheair: attackedastoria: i’d also...

27th May 2011

Post reblogged from All we are are memories. with 26 notes

attackedastoria:

i’d also like to tack on to the last post that just because a girl wears a dress/heels/skirt/or just attempts to look attractive in general at a show doesn’t mean she’s a fucking slut/trying to get with a band guy/etc. this may come as a shock, but guess what? some girls like to dress up sometimes. some girls like to dress up all the time. i wear heels or wedges all the fucking time, these days. when i go out, when i go to the store, when i walk the fucking dog. and guess what? i’m allowed to do that! and i’m especially allowed to do that without some fifteen year old girl side-eyeing me and calling me a slut as i pass by at a show whilst giggling to her friends(oh yeah, that’s happened, i can hear you you fucking idiots). i don’t give a shit that you’re wearing jeans and a t-shirt and no makeup, why do you give a shit about what i’m wearing? i’ve more than paid my dues in the pit, i have scars to prove it. don’t assume. i wish girls would focus less on slut-shaming each other and more on, oh, i don’t know, enjoying the band you paid to see.

i just want to reblog this and own up to the fact that i’ve been guilty of side-eyeing a girls at shows because they were dressed up, but i’ve been trying really hard to stop jumping to conclusions. i’m really close-minded sometimes when it comes to that because i just can’t see a show as anything less than a battlefield, sometimes. in that i always go with my shoes and hair tied tight and ready to get sweaty. so whenever i see someone that obviously sees shows differently, or just isn’t in that mood that night, or it’s not that band for them, i assume dumb things. it’s a shitty excuse, and i’m going to try really hard to stop jumping to those conclusions in my head.

See, I respect you for owning up to that and trying to change it. I think it’s a problem a lot of girls have, not just girls who go to shows, girls in general. Slut-shaming is a huge problem. I know I was guilty of this mindset when I was younger, but I think as you get older, you just stop caring so much about the people around you. Don’t get me wrong, I still go into the pit and fuck shit up when I feel like it, but I’m not getting any younger here, and I just don’t feel up to it nowadays. Like I said, I’ve got my scars, I’ve paid my dues. Instead of thinking, ‘oh, that girl’s a groupie’ or ‘oh, she doesn’t know what she’s doing’ when you see a girl all dressed up, think that.. hey, maybe it’s a special night for her. Maybe she wanted to look nice and have fun with her boyfriend listening to their favorite band. Maybe she’s a hardcore veteran taking a night off. Maybe she’s just tired and didn’t feel like moshing it up. I’ve been on both ends of this spectrum.. just like a girl in the pit/crowdsurfing with heels ruins the mood for you, side-eyeing a girl dressed up on the sidelines/by the bar and calling her a slut ruins her mood too.

I feel like I’ve been getting preachy as hell about this topic, haha, sorry.. I think it’s just been bothering me a lot lately since I’ve been going to shows more often and observing and experiencing this stuff firsthand again.

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